Expectations

“I expect my boyfriend/girlfriend to behave like…”

“I expected you to behave like…”

The above sentences shouldn’t be new for you. I’m sure, all of us said or saw similar sentences in our lives. Then, what is the root cause of the expectations? How does it effect our lives?

Whenever we expect something from someone, we say something similar to:

“I want to feel good, and I require a specific behavior from someone else to feel good. In other words, I totally relate my inner freedom and emotional responsibility to the behaviors of other person.”

Then we become demanding and constantly expect the other one to do something. Because our happiness is directly related to what he/she does or does not. 

Sometimes we give our emotional freedom so much to what they do or don’t that we sometimes expect something without just saying anything:

“I’d expect you to meet me today, not your friends.”

How could he/she know that you want to meet?

Of course you are free to relate and limit your happiness to what the other does or doesn’t. It’s your freedom! But if you want your freedom to be related just to yourself, not others and want to eliminate disappointments in your life, then it’s very useful to notice what you expect.

Remember:

If you have no expectations, then you have no disappointments.